One Steady Step at A Time
We live in an age where we want what we want when we want it.
We try to move faster. More efficiently. Work with the eye to the clock. Be mindful of our laziness, our diet, our time to exercise at the gym, and buy the best food cooked in the least amount of time and with the smallest calories that can fit on our plate.
Our performance review in life is critically important. We expect praise, promotions, steep raises because we earn them, and we expect everyone around us to understand how hard life is for us and to show up and support us.
Until they don't.
Or until we wake up on Saturday morning and realize our past practices are not serving our mental health. The people we loved left us, and our boss is someone we honestly do not respect, though we are happy to work that extra day with no thank you.
HOW DO YOU SHOW UP IN YOUR LIFE?
What is important?
Who do you work for?
Why do you work?
Do you feel creative?
Do you slog each day hoping to turn on the tv and crack open a cold one after 5?
How do you see your life?
How do you respond to change? What if you suddenly lost your job or your house was flooded and you were homeless? What if your life partner walked out on you or was suddenly killed in an accident?
What are your mental reserves?
Living life to the fullest is not about winning or getting what you want. It is about adapting to what you have, understanding what you need, and surrounding yourself with the powerful presence of gratitude. It is about facing hardship with grace. Not expecting more from others that you cannot give to yourself.
And when you feel stuck, really stuck, you take a step back. Observe your feelings. Does anger, resentment, revenge or bitterness cloud your ability to let go of it all. Facing traumatic events even in your childhood or the loss of an important person in your life demands a healing journey or you will crave the attention you once lost. You may find yourself turning to other people to fill the gap that was hollowed out by an abusive parent, a toxic friend or a lover who died in your arms.
And most important---Seek the help you need in healing. You can walk it alone but taking any journey is better when you can walk with another person you trust.
And there are many different professionals you can hire to support your journey. Find one that you can trust and be ready to share even your darkest moments with that professional.
I offer a course called the Healing Blueprint. It could be the start to your Healing Journey. It guides you through the ten steps I created when listening and supporting many clients after they experience a devastating loss and set back in life.
It is a self-paced video course that takes 2 and a half hours to watch and listen to. I give various suggestions on activities that will support you, too.
Currently, I have some clients who bought the course and take its content step by step to their therapist to examine and reflect upon. I also have some clients who bought this video course then started to work with me.
It is fine not to work directly with me but not fine if you still need one-to-one support and you do not seek it.
Think about how you show up in your life right now. Are you scattered, forgetful, always rushing, short-tempered, hasty to judge others, quick to criticize yourself or you are always apologizing when it is clear no apology is needed?
HOW DO YOU WANT TO SHOW UP IN YOUR LIFE?
You have a choice.
Maybe the first step is right here:
The Healing Blueprint Video Course
Walk steady. Step by step.
With Grace & Gratitude,
Kumari Patricia
